For over twenty years, I wanted to go to Italy. I always tried to finagle myself through a business meeting or something, but it never materialized. So, part of my vision for 2025 was to travel and be more expansive and guess what… I WENT TO ITALY AND IT WAS FABULOUS. With all that being said, there is an additional pride as I was able to achieve a major “to do” item on my bucket list and I made it happen. Go Me!
The story started January 1st when I received an email about a retreat in Tuscany. Before I could even think about it, I was called by my friend Kris asking me if I wanted to go and the answer was an immediate “yes.” Thus, after much preparation and ensuring that I could travel lite with one carry-on suitcase, I set out on my journey….
We decided to take Turkish Air via Istanbul to Rome. Not the most logical path, but we were able to get a great price and fly business class (btw a great airline). We landed in Rome, took the train to Florence and then a car to a villa in Tuscany. Sounds horrible huh – (NOT)? We were about to embark on a spiritual retreat with 18‘ish other women. Kris and I were assigned to the back wing of the villa where we found our rooms named Musetta (Kris)and mine was Giorgetta. We took on their persona the entire trip to really integrate into our temporary Tuscan culture. The grounds were beautiful, and we looked forward to a weeklong experience including our own private chef. I decided I needed to drop my eating restrictions and just enjoy the food of Italy. And that is an understatement as I ate literally everything, I could get my hands on. Not a proud moment but the idea of not trying the pasta and other local favorites seemed to me would have been a bad choice. I now am paying the piper, but I think it was worth it. I decided to wear baggy clothes and hunker back down when I came home. Denial and avoidance can be a strong tool – ha-ha.
As one would expect, we had an interesting cast of characters that attended this spiritual retreat. Having been immersed in the spiritual world, I knew a few people and was super comfortable exploring my inner self and of course, Italy. There were also a bunch of first timers such as a group of women who had been friends since they were kids, I fondly called them the triplets. There were a few ladies that had trauma in their life and needed some of the sessions to gain clarity. There was even one person who did not realize it was a spiritual retreat – which cracked me up. Let’s just say, we all had our reasons for attending but mine was just to be in the flow of Tuscany.
Every morning started with a meditation overlooking the most beautiful scenery and breeze. It became a suspended moment and I really felt present without a care in the world. Very few times in my life – have I reached the state of total peace – just happy to be where I was. There were sessions where we learned more about spirituality and tapping into source. We also worked on our inner child (mine was fine – for once I felt I was in good shape), and we did many drum circles which verified that I have no sense of rhythm and had a poor memory to remember a very basic song that only had four lines. Maybe it was the jet lag, who knows. We also had a cooking lesson with the chef, and he basically read the audience well. Most of us were given menial tasks like quarter tomatoes or cut the ends off the green beans. This chef really got me and I appreciated him taking on the heavy load …. We had a few more ambitious students who ended up carrying us by making the pasta, slicing the chicken and whatever else was served. The meal was excellent as we dined outside. I knew I was a slacker when it came to preparing the meal, and I ate with complete satisfaction. I owned my laziness.
We also had fun excursions touring Pisa (so excited to tell everyone – Risa went to Pisa). I know I am channeling Bernie’s humor (my dad). What amazed me the most about Pisa was that the Leaning Tower is next to a cathedral. I was always under the impression it stood alone. Can you imagine if you had to live next to a building that throws off all the symmetry – the wonder of the world is how they co-existed without a major fist fight. If that was my neighbor, I would take a sledgehammer to the tower – anyways I digress. We also visited a cute smaller town called Lucca which was charming with unique shops, amazing gelato, and this chickpea bread/polenta that was to die for and I am still thinking about it now.
Then there was Florence which was magnificent. The history, architecture and statues took my breath away. We had the best tour guide who showed true Italian passion when explaining the essence of Florence. She brought us to tears as she described the creation of the statue, David as if she was channeling Michelangelo. It was a site to see (I mean why was everyone naked – it seemed like a real party back then). The one embarrassing admittance of mine is that I had no idea that David was part of the duo David and Goliath – sort of put everything into perspective for me. Although if David asked me, I would have suggested he put on a loin cloth before he taking on that giant. I am a safety girl, and we need to protect our bits. 🙂
I think my favorite destination was Cinque Terre, a string of five ancient fishing villages known as the Italian Riviera – need I say more? We drove up the mountains (another theme of the trip was severe car sickness – not me but someone always was on the verge of puking). We went out on boats into the glistening blue water, listening to ABBA, Village People and other unexpected music – which did enhance the vibe. Many of the ladies dove into the water, someone in their underwear (you know who you were) and two of the guides in very skimpy briefs. I sat on the boat and enjoyed from afar. The thought of trying to dry off and go to dinner in wet clothes did not appeal to me. All in all, it was so much fun, and I loved every minute. Did I mention too there were a lot of sexy unfulfilled wishes with Italian men going on too. I enjoyed being an observer of all the antics of these middle-aged women.
After the retreat was over, Kris and I went back to Rome to tour around and see some of the sites. Everything just flowed and we had a great time just having few expectations. Having this laid-back approach, allowed us to have many great interactions with people during our travels. We met a CEO who invented some very cool innovations to help people with heart problems and rheumatoid arthritis. We also had a great conversation with two feisty and modern best friends from Qatar. I was not sure what intrigued me more – their independent spirit or their 3 large a piece luggage choice for only a week in Italy. Their suitcases were huge as they rolled around on the train. To be young and wanting every clothing option possible. As Kris and I looked at each other wearing the same basic outfits in a different configuration. My sleep shorts were ready to walk away from me on that trip (but I did pack efficiently – which meant repeat wearing of things)
Rome was fantastic as we shopped, saw sites and discovered the most amazing hot chocolate ever (which deserved a second cup the following day). The food was fresh and delicious and walking the streets were completely satisfying. We laughed and were open to possibilities. The weather was great, and the company was better. I could not have imagined a more perfect vacation. When we flew back to Istanbul, we had a layover, so Kris came up with a great idea for us to visit the airport spa. I enjoyed the best massage I ever had for two hours (called the head to toe). Although there were a few places rubbed that I was not used to – I just went with it. We were then off on our 11-hour flight back (we figured we went 6 hours out of the way), but I did not care as I reflected on my love – Italy.
Now being back at home and thinking about the trip, I am so content, a little jet lagged and feeling completely fulfilled. I have been to many beautiful places in my life and am super grateful. But Italy is my special place holding a meaningful space in my heart. I do not know if it was the vibe, food or the people that affected me or the fact that I was able to fulfill a lifelong dream? I think it may be the most important factor is that I ended up visiting Italy when I was completely ready and present to take in all the beauty and splendor in my soul. Magnifico!!
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A Sense of Adventure
My daughter Isabelle has always been curious about the world and diverse cultures. She would rather go somewhere than buy things (which is unlike me – I need to explore my attraction to materialism in therapy). Thus, it makes sense that she has chosen a career in international relations. I suppose this is a long opener to my next topic which is ADVENTURE and how it supports health and wellness.
As I am writing this blog, which is by hand using a notebook (rocking the retro vibe), I sit in the Istanbul airport waiting for my flight home. I have just visited Isabelle in Baku, Azerbaijan where she is finishing an internship with the state department. I made a promise awhile back that if she was brave enough to live in a foreign country then I was going to put on my big girl pants and visit her. However, I wish she would be interested in more conventional countries like France, Spain, Greece, or Portugal but that is not my gal. So, my future will involve travel to places I never knew I wanted to go.
Azerbaijan is a beautiful country that has presence in both Eastern Europe and Western Asia having been at one time part of the Soviet Union. It is described sometimes as the Paris of the East and the Land of Fire. Azerbaijan is a country rich with oil and natural gas therefore deserving its nickname (and you can smell it in the air – yuck). This secular nation has a majority of Turkic and Muslim population. Who knew?? I certainly never even realized it existed until she announced her choice for her assignment six months ago.
Well, you may ask, what does this have to do with wellness? I honestly believe that taking a trip off the beat and path and venturing out of your comfort zone has powerful benefits to your health. Now I am not going to act like the advocate for travel because it took a forklift to get me to leave the house and my usual routine. I mean I am the guiltiest of all my friends and family of living a mundane life. There was definitely a lot of internal himming and hawing going on before embracing the 15 plus hour travel. However, when I finally sat on the plane, all my doubt disappeared as I was excited to see Isabelle and a different part of the world. It was a time to be present and absorb Azerbaijan and their people. In full confession, I was not totally brave as I had a major safety net, my brother and sister-in-law ,who are world travelers, volunteered to accompany me. I am really glad they did as very few people spoke English and I was a foreigner in their territory. We ate the local cuisine, stayed off the Caspian Sea, enjoyed site sightseeing and just being together with Isabelle. I even ran into an old friend/ colleague and ended up having dinner together (talking about weird coincidence).
My sense of adventure was put to the test when we booked an excursion to the Guba, Khanbalik, and Candy Mountains. We drove about one hour and half from Baku where we first viewed sandy mountains that had red stripes from the iron deposits. As we drove to our next destination the climate changed to cooler, lush greenery which was beautiful with rocky streams and clean air. Little did I know that the fun was just about to begin. We drove up and down the mountains on very narrow paths with no options for error. Our ears popping, dizziness, some nausea and hearts beating as we let the day unfold. We stopped at a Jewish settlement “Caucasian Jerusalem” to visit an operational synagogue and saw children hiding and interested in our presence. With all the tension in the region, there was more guarded behavior from the locals. As we continued to drive up the mountain with no end in sight, and about 6 hours into the tour, we wanted out!!! We thought about options to order food takeout rather than making the next stop. Where is Door-Dash when you need them? It was explained to us that we could not turn around until we reached the remote village where we were scheduled to experience the local cuisine. The Chinanu settlement dates back to the Albanian period. This population is considered the oldest and highest inhabited place in the world and speaks a language dating back 4,000 years. We were also informed that we were about 13 Kilometers from Russia (I should have read the fine print in the tour overview). OMG – I had a moment that we could be totally erased from existence, and no one would know where we were or what happened. What the hell were we doing? Signing up for this excursion, which was too long, provided few potty breaks and no emergency plan for evacuation. After my panic attack subsided, it turned out to be a great experience as we were served a lunch of traditional home cooked food. I looked around the room, I started to laugh as I saw a Sony flat screen TV and the grandfather who wore a tracksuit with lots of bling on his fingers. This family was making bank from all the tours coming their way. He was sweet and we tried to communicate by exchanging a few French terms like bon appetit, bonjour and tres bien. He was thrilled when I gave him some US coins and then our eyes locked and we bonded (or at least that is what I tell myself)! This tour was thrilling and scary at the same time. I was also shocked about the amount of traffic going both ways and the typical minor road rage situation when someone was blocking the path with animals. Figures, the same general driving issues as anywhere else. Needless to say, I was relieved that we did not drive off the mountain and my terror subsided when our tour guide shared, they spend about 300 days on these mountains in far worse driving conditions. We were fine at the end of the day and now have cherished stories to be told for years to come.
We also toured the old city and went to museums, learning more about their history which goes back millions of years, which blew my mind. I also met Isabelle’s colleagues and learned to play Pickleball – ha – who would have guessed? However, the most fun was just those quiet times taking strolls on the boardwalk next to the Caspian Sea and people watching, which was truly a wonderful experience from every account. It made me recognize the importance of health includes being curious, expanding my horizons, challenging myself and being present in the moment with no distractions. The world is such a vast place and it makes you realize that your existence, issues and fears is a very small part of a bigger system.
I am glad I will be home soon and proud of myself for going for it. I also hold more admiration for Isabelle’s courage to live in a foreign land, very far away for a summer as she continues to stamp her global citizen card. For me, there is no place like home, but I came back being more informed, relaxed and invigorated to be productive in my daily life. I acquired several funny stories, bonded with the family, and expanded my knowledge. This was just what the doctor ordered, and it feels great.

